So, with all the stuff we have done we are now set to become another statistic. We fought hard through our trials since being married; all of the miscarriages, job loss, home searches and even cancer. But we have lost the battle of our home. We have been struggling to make ends meet for some time and gotten assistance through church and family. But with Ben's pending health issues and the uncertainty of income prospects, we have given up on our home here. We have, thankfully, a very generous offer from my folks and we will be moving up near them in the next few months.
Like most people in similar situations, we did not go into this with the intent of just abandoning our home. On the contrary! We were always in the middle of a home project and became "weekend warriors" with regards to that fact. We even planned well when we bought our home, making sure we were not biting off more than we could chew. We had set in place nearly six months worth of savings in case of job loss, but with Ben getting so sick so fast and for so long, it wiped us out.
We have thought long and hard about our leaving in such a way. We tried the possibility of renting it out, but there is too much work to be done on the home. We have thought about a short-sale, but we would be so far under that it's just too ridiculous. We have decided to pay the consequences of a forclosure. I am sad and down-trodden. I feel beaten and that I did not lose a battle, but simply surrendered.
You may think poorly of us for our decision and I would not blame you. I thought the same of others before. But I hope you will forgive us and not think ill of us for too long. You may have done something different if you were chosen to walk our path. As for us, we saw no other way.
There's no shame in trying something and having it not work out. It is unfortunate, but you do what you have to do. We'll miss you, are you planning to move back to California at some point, or is it too uncertain? I wish you and your family the best in your new situation!
ReplyDeletethank you megan :) we are still going to live in California. We're moving up towards Eureka, Ca in a small town I have grown up in (well, going there all my life at least twice a year) Fortuna, Ca. Known as The Friendly City it's where my family is. Things have been too crazy here, just hoping for a new start.
ReplyDeleteHey Guys, been trying to text you. I'd really like to help you guys in any way possible, lemme know what I can do for you. how I can help. I agree with Megan, there is absolutely ni shame in what you are doing. We think you are doing the right thing entirely. when are you moving? where are you moving to (housewise?) Are you moving in with your parents, down the street? THere weren't many details for that part above....love you guys
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sorry about the texting thing...our new phone stuff has been giving me troubles and also we are up in the mountains so i don't get the messages right away :P we are prospectively going to move in with my parents (if we can nail anything down) up in the eureka, ca area...if we can find something in the next day or so we will move as soon as escrow closes (45 days or so). as soon as we know anything we will definitly be calling in the troops. we have 4 houses to look at tomorrow and one with 5 bedrooms!! (so you can come and visit ANYTIME and there would be rooms available). things are still up in the air and i am heart-broken in so many ways. it is all very frustrating and i wish i knew more than i do about all of this. i'm also having to deal with things that i am not ready to and really, i'm scared...we should be coming home from our house hunting on this thursday and i will call you guys...thank you for understanding about our decision about leaving our home...it means a lot!
ReplyDeleteNo Worries Lady!! Give us a call, also, movie night at the drive ins is free that night, I think that a bunch of us are planning to be there and you are TOTALLY invited if you can make it work for Christopher's schedule.
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